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Invest in YOUR Connection!

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Have you said “I will” to a year of Consciously Connecting? If not, now is the time, this is the moment!

Welcome to a year of life changing opportunities, new perspectives and a path of grace. Consciously Connecting is about choosing a life of greater connectivity to yourself and others. Tune into your desires, find fun in the mundane and learn to disconnect before your day has disappeared.

What do you desire? Not what your parents, professors or pastors want for you–YOU. This is about the conscious journey of discovering what you desire, and connecting to the path that best suits your lifestyle.

Have you found fun in the mundane? Sure this can be difficult at times, especially when you can’t see the forest through the trees, or the light at the end of the tunnel. However, there are always ways to find the thread to fun and laughter in each and every day, especially if you’re willing to view things in a different light. And if that doesn’t work, you can always return to the hum-drum, mundane way it was before.

Do you disconnect daily? How do you walk away from all the chatter, disconnect from too much technology and spend some time each day with yourself? By setting aside time for you, often the missing ingredient, it creates a deeper connection within yourself and to others.

This is the moment which changes every-thing! Right now you’re going to make the commitment to this year being the best year you’ve ever experienced by joining the journey to Consciously Connecting. We’re here for you each month with free newsletters and blogs, and for those who would like a little more we’ve got you covered as well. Click Here!

Many of you have loved my book, Consciously Connecting, and shared how your lives have changed. You asked for more, we heard you and developed a monthly online course to aid in your connection to all aspects of your life on a deeper level. Click Here. So, if you’re ready for more, we’ll do it together once a month for 12 months. Join for one month, 6 months or the entire year, it’s up to you to choose the amount of connection you desire for your life. Click Here for more information.

I’m looking forward to this being the best year yet and sharing the journey with you! Click the button below as we begin to find and focus on greater connection to everything you desire for 2017. Come on, let’s do it together.

A Healthy Holiday Connection

By | Connectivity, Consciousness, Digital Detox | 8 Comments

As the year comes to a close many of us find ourselves on a tightrope somewhere between contentment and agitation. Let’s be honest, the real purpose of the holidays isn’t in the giving of gifts, but in the giving of your time (Click to Tweet). Choosing to share your time with others is special and sacred.

Then how can such a festive time of year have so many triggers? Triggers can leave you feeling disconnected from joy and utterly exhausted. This is the year to put holiday mealtime into perspective as you spread the cheer and glad tidings.

Here are 3 simple tips to help you create a healthier approach to all the festivities this season. These tips will give you peace of mind and maybe even create a little peace on earth!

Tip #1: Phone stack? Nope, it doesn’t really work, as I shared during my interview with Andy Cohen. Phone stacks keep your brain looped into focusing on emails that need to be answered and texts you may be missing. Not a great way to create a connection with another person.

Tip #2: Give friends and family the focus they deserve by face to face interaction. This means putting your devices away during meals together. Placing a phone on the table creates anxiety and the pressure that you’re too busy to share this time with others.

Tip #3: Vibrating isn’t the best solution…well, not with a phone. Shut your phone off, yes OFF when meeting with friends and family so you’re not tempted to check your device.

The most important focus of any event is the person or people right in front of you, not what’s on your devices (Click to Tweet). Step out of the fast paced frenzy of the season as you choose to disconnect from the distraction of your device and begin to enjoy a happier, healthier holiday season with others.

Thanks for consciously connecting, and we’ll be sending information on a special gift for the season very soon.

3 Ways to Prioritize Play This Fall

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As we close the gap on August and prepare to move full steam ahead to the brisk days of fall, you don’t have to bid adieu to your playtime. Don’t fall for the gap!

Sure the sunnier days of summer are more inviting to all the activities that have to do with play and nurturing your inner child. However, fall can be just as nurturing if you continue to put the spotlight on play, and keep it as a priority in your life! As adults, we have bought into the theory that we need to work more, work harder and log longer hours in order to make our dreams come true. Actually, burnout is not a prerequisite to success (Click to Tweet).

When we sacrifice playtime with our children, friends, and partners we begin to disconnect from our joy and happiness. It’s imperative for our mental health, and creativity, to sit outside watching the clouds roll by or to meet a friend with no agenda other than to connect . In those moments we are connected to the spark which allows our souls to be fed and in turn we plug into new ideas, solve problems in a different way, and as the saying goes “take the blinders off.”

It’s true that it won’t be long and we’ll be gearing up for the holidays. Wouldn’t it be lovely to arrive rested, joyful and ready to tackle the holiday season head-on as opposed to feeling you just want to get to the other side of all the hustle and bustle? Of course it would! This is why you need to prioritize playtime this fall.

Follow these 3 tips and you’ll continue to beam with enthusiasm and embrace new adventures.

Adjust your Mindset–You don’t always need to have 3-4 hour blocks of time to play. How about walking to work with a pit stop in the park for 10 minutes to play on a swing? If you’re driving add an extra 10 minutes of time to take a small detour that has peaked your curiosity. By adjusting your mindset you’ll be opening your brain to new possibilities. And that’s when the real fun starts to happen.

Giggling Counts–You may not have time to put on your bowling shoes and throw a few strikes, however, there’s always time for a laugh! Lighten up as you embrace the silliness that happens every single day and deserves a good guffaw even in the busiest of moments. My husband and I often have elevator races. He jumps into one elevator, I’m in another and we race to see who gets to our floor first. The winner takes a victory lap and waves to the imaginary fans. Is this a little nutty? For sure! Do we laugh hysterically? Absolutely. There are times this is exactly what is needed to take the sting out of a rough day.

Play Equals Commitment –Put some structured play dates in your adult calendar. Remember to hold this time as sacred. Treat your playtime with the same commitment as having your teeth cleaned, (Click to Tweet) grocery shopping or any other activity you need to do as an adult.  Again, this has nothing to do with the season and should be a year-round commitment. Allow every season to be the season of play.

These tips are simple and you can begin incorporating them into your life today! Take the challenge and make this a priority. By Consciously Connecting to the commitment of play you’ll feel more connected to everyone and everything happening in your life.

Go out and play and I’ll see you soon.

Where’s Your Voice?

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Plagiarism, plagiarism, plagiarism, that seems to be the word of the moment. Why are we talking about this again? Well, if you’ve been in a cave for the last 24 hours here’s the update.

Melania Trump’s speech at the RNC seems to have been lifted right out of Michelle Obama’s playbook. However, that’s not what this is about! The real question here is how often do you lose your voice in the chaos of everyday life? Do you find yourself spewing out advice that someone gave you? Instead of using words from your own heart and soul? Maybe your writing style is one of cut and paste. This is disconnected from your truth and what you have to share with the world.

BestProducts.com and I connected on this very topic. In case you missed it, check it out below. And remember, make your words your own, no need to use anyone else’s.

Are you Connecting in the Middle?

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Is it really July? Gosh, that’s so hard to believe, yet it’s true. Every year I recite this same phrase in utter disbelief. Where has the time gone?

Remember when your parents used to say phrases like that?  You couldn’t wrap your head around what they were saying. After all, you agonizingly counted the days to summer and couldn’t wait for all that it would bring. Limitless time to swing, maybe fishing adventures, amusement parks with lots of rides, perhaps it was camping or anything else your heart desired. Ah, life was so good.

Are you embracing your inner child by taking time this summer to go out and play? Connecting to play is important for your creativity, and being outside nurtures your brain and body. [Click to Tweet] Spending quality time outside, not just rushing from one event to the next, but rather intentionally going outside and into nature can change your attitude.

Yes, nature is calling you! Nature nurtures so it’s imperative that you spend some time in the park, mountains or at the shore. Spending time in nature allows the pathways in the brain to connect to new ideas, problem solving becomes easier, and your mental health improves as well as lowering your levels of cortisol.

Less stress, more happiness and a deeper connection to YOU are the perfect ingredients for a successful summer. So swap some time at your desk and time with technology for something better as you head outside to drink in some green while looking up and out at the beautiful blue sky.

Enjoy connecting in the middle and remember to continue Consciously Connecting!

curiosity killed the cat go out and play in June

Did Curiosity Kill the Cat?

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I don’t think so if anything it probably extended all 9 lives.

I grew up with a mother who had, and still has, an insatiable curiosity for everything. As a result, my brother and I had to taste every type of food, visit art museums, learn to garden and make jam–all while trying to understand the delicate dance of communication. We played at being city folk and country folk, all with the idea that variety leads to curiosity, and from curiosity the world will be seen in technicolor! (Click to Tweet)

Often on the way to church, my mom would take back roads and alternate unknown routes, all in the name of curiosity and adventure. My brother and I thought she was nuts! But in hindsight, which is always 20/20, she was darn smart.

If something seemed yucky or looked disgusting, in other words, we didn’t want to eat it, touch it, do it or smell it, she put it front and center so we could try something new. She wanted us to master life, and in her opinion, that meant planting seeds of curiosity so we would always explore alternatives before closing a door to an opportunity.

I could only claim I didn’t like something after I tried it. Mom thought it was wonderful if I wanted to visit another church, synagogue or temple, and the idea that my curiosity to learn about others was bubbling and would allow me to access the connection to myself on a deeper level. What became interesting to me was that my mother never felt threatened by my expanding interests, in fact, she was excited about them.

No conflict about ending up too far to the left or too far to the right, as curiosity is the mysterious ingredient that makes everything as it should be. If you experience everything life has to offer, you’ll have a life filled with magical and mysterious experiences. And imagine those experiences interwoven with wonderful people who share their journeys with you.

What my brother and I didn’t realize, after all, how could we, was that we were given a gentle guide and the positive preparation for life. Dive into something scary, chances are it won’t be that bad. Be curious enough to try something new on a menu. Participate in an activity you know absolutely nothing about as you buckle up for a wonderful ride because curiosity opens the door to exploration, which in turn provides information and that, gives the gift of inspiration!

So did curiosity kill the cat? No, it did not! Curiosity filled the 9 lives with palpable passion, lots of excitement and wonderful adventures beyond compare.

Go and eagerly explore as you allow your curiosity to transport you beyond your limits as you feel the connection to the edge and back.

 

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Where’s Your Power Surge?

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Technology has changed everything and we are reminded of this daily. The gift of ease and simplicity is apparent when booking airline tickets or purchasing a pair of shoes without ever leaving your living room. And gone are the days of waiting in a hotel lobby for a fax to arrive as one click on your device assures delivery.

With so much ease there is a price to be paid for the super simple technologically connected world. We have forgotten our humanity, connectivity and sometimes eye to eye contact feels like being naked. Everyone is looking down, scrolling screens and connecting to the information highway without a single word of conversation.

It’s time for a different type of power surge and it means leaving the phones behind, for now.

As nature begins to awaken we need to wake up as well. It’s time to head outside and get the type of power surge that only happens when you’re looking up and out at the world.

Where's Your Power Surge

How often do you watch the sunset? The entire sunset, not just 15 seconds as you’re running to do something else, taking a call or scrolling through random events on social media. Make it a priority to spend some time in nature and begin to feel the calm nature gives to you as a gift.

Take a deep breath and slowly exhale. Repeat several times and begin to notice the calming effect this has on your body. Deep breathing helps with relaxation and releasing all those mental cobwebs caused by too much technology.

Trying looking up and out and you’ll be astonished how different the world looks. What do you see? Wow, how does that feel? It’s a different world when you’re not looking down at texts and emails and actually look at the sky, trees, and people. Yes, humans actually have faces and emit emotions when you remember to engage with them.

Sounds easy however this gets more and more difficult when you keep your head buried in devices. Eye contact becomes intimidating and conversations stiff. There’s a whole world that’s not on your screen and it’s time to start looking for those connections. Once you start to look up and out you’ll find conversations are interesting and thought provoking.

Connect to your power surge as you spring toward some tech free time and begin to nurture yourself.  Until next time, continue Consciously Connecting.

The Stairway to Adventure

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If your mindset is one of collecting experiences then you’re destined for a life filled with adventure. The people you meet, places you go and activities you participate in will transform your journey into one of discovery and connection. Here are 5 steps to experience adventure on a deeper level.

Be Open.  Adventure is about discovering something new. Different cultures give you the opportunity to experience traditions and customs that vary from your own. All five senses can be fully activated if you’re willing to tuck the map into your pocket and immerse yourself in the new.

Be Flexible.   Allow yourself to roam the road less traveled, literally. Forgo waiting in a long line to visit another exhibit, which will prove to be time consuming, and pursue something new. Find another experience that you had no idea existed prior to roaming.

Be Curious.  Interact and engage with locals. Ask questions and learn the history from their experiences and perspective. Inquire how they celebrate holidays, weddings and other special events in their lives.

Be Brave.  Confront challenges head on! Try speaking an unfamiliar language, and yes you’ll mispronounce words, but locals will happily help you perfect your accent. Taste unfamiliar food, play or watch a new sport, wander into a local place and listen to a different type of music as you dance to a another tune. Explore and experience what is outside of your comfort zone.

Be Generous.  It’s amazing how you can impact another person’s life with the things you may take for granted. Pack clothing, shoes, pens, and pads that you can give away. There are many communities in the world who have far less than you and it’s a wonderful way to share with someone that may need these items.

It’s easy to view adventure from the perspective of traveling to exotic destinations. And while adventure is found in those places, don’t forget that you live in a multi-cultural and diverse world which is available every time you walk out your front door.  Make the commitment to travel the trail of adventure as you explore new cultures and experiences. Follow these steps and you’re sure to climb the stairway to adventure.

Until next time, you know what to do…Continue Consciously Connecting

If your mindset is one of collecting experiences then you’re destined for a life filled with adventure. The people you meet, places you go and activities you participate in will transform your journey into one of discovery and connection. Here are 5 steps to experience adventure on a deeper level. Be Open. Adventure is about discovering something new. Different cultures give you the opportunity to experience traditions and customs that vary from your own. All five senses can be fully activated if you’re willing to tuck the map into your pocket and immerse yourself in the new. Be Flexible. Allow yourself to roam the road less traveled, literally. Forgo waiting in a long line to visit another exhibit, which will prove to be time consuming, and pursue something new. Find another experience that you had no idea existed prior to roaming. Be Curious. Interact and engage with locals. Ask questions and learn the history from their experiences and perspective. Inquire how they celebrate holidays, weddings and other special events in their lives. Be Brave. Confront challenges head on! Try speaking an unfamiliar language, and yes you’ll mispronounce words, but locals will happily help you perfect your accent. Taste unfamiliar food, play or watch a new sport, wander into a local place and listen to a different type of music as you dance to a another tune. Explore and experience what is outside of your comfort zone. Be Generous. It’s amazing how you can impact another person’s life with the things you may take for granted. Pack clothing, shoes, pens, and pads that you can give away. There are many communities in the world who have far less than you and it’s a wonderful way to share with someone that may need these items. It’s easy to view adventure from the perspective of traveling to exotic destinations. And while adventure is found in those places, don’t forget that you live in a multi-cultural and diverse world which is available every time you walk out your front door. Make the commitment to travel the trail of adventure as you explore new cultures and experiences. Follow these steps and you’re sure to climb the stairway to adventure. Until next time, you know what to do...Continue Consciously Connecting

The Power of HOPE

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How many times has a situation in your life felt hopeless? Maybe this one problem would destroy everything you had built and accomplished. What kept you going or may keep you going now? Is it the small and sometimes microscopic seed of hope that compels you to go on?

Hope guides you out of the agonizing abyss and the direction of despair, into the dimension of your dreams and desires. Hope crystallizes as you experience the synchronicity of finding a ladybug in the middle of winter, seeing the colors of a rainbow on an icicle, or the more tangible, and less mysterious phone call from someone you were just thinking about in that exact moment.  Now the pain gently begins to dissipate, like a tire slowly losing air.

The ability to latch onto hope is never easy, quick or free from pain. Usually pain has put us on the journey toward hope, hope then represents healing, and trust is the catalyst for it all.

After the darkness, on the other side of hope, everything is better than expected. This is the beauty of the unknown. Tomorrow always allows for new beginnings as you approach the day with rest and, the quieting and stillness of the mind. Hope is always ready to share a new vantage point on a still unsolved problem and the freedom to untether the connection to it.

How many times has a situation in your life felt hopeless? Maybe this one problem would destroy everything you had built and accomplished. What kept you going or may keep you going now? Is it the small and sometimes microscopic seed of hope that compels you to go on?  Hope guides you out of the agonizing abyss and the direction of despair, into the dimension of your dreams and desires. Hope crystallizes as you experience the synchronicity of finding a ladybug in the middle of winter, seeing the colors of a rainbow on an icicle, or the more tangible, and less mysterious phone call from someone you were just thinking about in that exact moment.  Now the pain gently begins to dissipate, like a tire slowly losing air.  The ability to latch onto hope is never easy, quick or free from pain. Usually pain has put us on the journey toward hope, hope then represents healing, and trust is the catalyst for it all.  After the darkness, on the other side of hope, everything is better than expected. This is the beauty of the unknown. Tomorrow always allows for new beginnings as you approach the day with rest and, the quieting and stillness of the mind. Hope is always ready to share a new vantage point on a still unsolved problem and the freedom to untether the connection to it.

Whether you reach out to another, or hold your own counsel, the bridge to hope can only be crossed on the path to belief. When you realize, and believe, there is a force bigger than you, something more powerful than pain, and a greater purpose to your moments of solitary destruction and darkness, then you will understand and find the thread to the power of hope.

You are resilient and the thread of hope continues to teach this year after year, problem after problem which leads to the path of solutions. As you trust in hope you recognize the potential to imagine new possibilities that are released after you have chosen patience.

Hang on to hope as you catapult to your greatness by Consciously Connecting.

Connect to Possibility

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It’s a New Year and that usually gets me thinking about new possibilities and the road to travel this year.

What is your perception of possibility? What if you approached every opportunity as a new possibility to create exactly what you want.

Since January and the new calendar year always coincide it becomes easy to pinpoint this time of year as the time of possibility and new beginnings. By shifting your focus and being open to discovering what is possible at any time of the year, you are allowing for connection to possibility in every moment.  Trust that you can calculate, contemplate and complete what is necessary for your success.

The future and the odds being in your favor will change because your perspective is going to shift. Transform the impossible to the possible as you analyze your goals, put the plan into action, track your progress and measure your results one day at a time.

You are meant to have anything your heart desires and the path to achieving this is held by YOU! Plant the seed for a paradigm shift that allows for every possibility to exist. When the seeds of possibility are nurtured and cared for they grow into opportunities more than you ever imagined.

Choose to surround yourself with those who believe in you, support your goals and see your vision. Let your probabilities be possibilities as you awaken, adjust and align your expectations to achieve your dreams.

This is the year to put on your ruby slippers and follow your yellow brick road as you sow the seeds of possibility to everything!

Step into your limitless year as you begin or continue Consciously Connecting.

It's a New Year and that usually gets me thinking about new possibilities and the road to travel this year.  What is your perception of possibility? What if you approached every opportunity as a new possibility to create exactly what you want.  Since January and the new calendar year always coincide it becomes easy to pinpoint this time of year as the time of possibility and new beginnings. By shifting your focus and being open to discovering what is possible at any time of the year, you are allowing for connection to possibility in every moment.  Trust that you can calculate, contemplate and complete what is necessary for your success.  The future and the odds being in your favor will change because your perspective is going to shift. Transform the impossible to the possible as you analyze your goals, put the plan into action, track your progress and measure your results one day at a time.  You are meant to have anything your heart desires and the path to achieving this is held by YOU! Plant the seed for a paradigm shift that allows for every possibility to exist. When the seeds of possibility are nurtured and cared for they grow into opportunities more than you ever imagined.  Choose to surround yourself with those who believe in you, support your goals and see your vision. Let your probabilities be possibilities as you awaken, adjust and align your expectations to achieve your dreams.  This is the year to put on your ruby slippers and follow your yellow brick road as you sow the seeds of possibility to everything!  Step into your limitless year as you begin or continue Consciously Connecting.